‘You can never have the perfect man,’ says Mathira

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Television host Mathira, known for her being bold and vocal, recently appeared as a guest on the Rukhsat podcast, where she shared her thoughts on the wrongs in marriages today.

“First of all, we should know that there’s nothing called an ideal couple. I’ve learned this: you can never have the perfect man, and you can never have the perfect girl, but you can have a person that you feel safe with,” she said.

“True love is when you feel safe with someone when you can act like your six-year-old, and you can understand that sometimes, even at your worst and even at your best. We also need to understand that a relationship is not 50/50. When your partner is down, you need to do extra work. Sometimes you’ll have to be 70, you’ll have to take it. But then when things go balanced and when you’re down, they need to do the same for you,” she explained.

“We need to teach our kids one thing: when you get into something with the mental goal of perfection, stop trying to be perfect. You need to be transparent. Whoever you are, he/she accepts you with all your jadedness, with all your flaws, then you can elevate that person and be like, ‘You’ve seen all my flaws; now I will look past your flaws.’

“So it becomes an exchange. You both will be like, ‘I have this issue; I will try to work on it.’ This is what you call teamwork, balancing each other’s loopholes, like you’re there for each other”, she advised.

Mahira also pointed out a major misconception in society, saying, “We need to understand that sex is not everything, it’s just a small part of life, it’s not life, people can get used to a toxic relationship, and it’s like heroin. The biggest misconception in Pakistan is that women are more attracted to it.”